Couples Who Had Very Unconventional Weddings Are Sharing How They Went About It, And All Of These Sound Perfect To Me
"I would not trade my weird wedding with anything fancier or more traditional!"
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
"There was no proposal; it was just a discussion about whether this was right for us. Our invitations were a National Park postcard set we got for $20 off the National Park website. We sent our guests the park we thought they would love the most or one we had visited! Our rings were a custom set from an artist in California who created a topographical map of the mountain peak where we got married on our rings.
I wore a black tulle ballgown with silver stars and Doc Martens (there was snow on the ground). We did a skiing photo shoot with our photographer the day before because we weren't allowed to ski down after our ceremony, which was our original plan. So we did a fun photoshoot skiing around and also included our pet rabbit. Instead of a private suite, we got a huge slope-side party house with a hot tub to share with ten friends. Our photographer didn't stay for the reception. We had 20 disposable cameras out for our friends to use and then had the photos printed as thank-yous to all our guests. My parents HATED everything. They wanted tradition. My husband didn't ask 'permission,' I didn't have an engagement ring, I didn't do a big dress shopping day, my guest list was too small, etc."
—Bryn, Boston
"I handed my very surprised and crying sister my bouquet and announced to the room, 'Surprise, it’s actually the wedding!' and my mom proceeded to marry us. Everyone was SHOOK. Even though some people were initially upset they didn’t know, we ended up all having an amazing and unforgettable night. It’s been a year and a half, and I’m still so happy we made this decision. My biggest regret, though, was that since people didn’t know it was the wedding, some friends and family weren’t able to fly in to attend. I love my husband, and the unconventional way we decided to start our marriage. Highly recommend!"
—Kellen, NJ
—Samiee
—N, Washington
—Chiara, France/Italy
"Our daughters had simple baby's breath bouquets. The ceremony took about 20 minutes. Photos were about an hour. It was in early December, and it started to rain/snow. It was so cold but made for lovely, sparkling pictures. My mom picked up the girls, and then we went to Denny's for brunch as husband and wife! I got my dress, boots, and toddler's dress on Poshmark. My teen wore an old dress of mine. The venue was a conservation area, so it was free of charge. Flowers and photography were discounted (I LOVE my friends). The wedding cost less than $1,200, and more than half was on our rings."
—Jen, Canada
"We got married in the back garden of a family home with picnic blankets and pillows sewed by my grandmother, mother, and a gang of their friends. We carried carpets and couches out of the house to set up on the lawn, and we provided wine and beer but invited guests to bring any other drinks they liked. We also have a lot of musician friends, and we had an open mic for reception entertainment, which was a hit.
My father-in-law brought out his guitar and had the whole reception singing 'Piano Man' at one point, which was a highlight. My grandmother sewed my wedding dress, and I hand-dyed it to create a blue ombre effect to match my hair. The wedding party all wore their own clothes; our only requirement was that they wear some kind of blue. The result was a beautiful mismatch of jumpsuits, dresses, and suits—one of my bridesmaids even wore a blue sari."
—Maya, South Africa
"We spent several days in Italy with our families beforehand, seeing sights and finalizing details before a Thursday ceremony at the villa we had booked for the week. (Pro tip: mid-week wedding = less expensive vendor costs!) It was such an intimate and beautiful day, and we got to spend it with those closest to us instead of obligatory small talk with 100+ guests. Everyone flew home on Saturday or Sunday, and we flew to Paris for our honeymoon. Our 8-bedroom villa for the week, daily meals, rental cars, ceremony vendors, and airfare for 12 (everyone paid for their own flights) cost around $25,000. It was worth every cent, in our opinion!"
—Kathleen, Indiana