“I Will Interrupt Men Back” — People Are Sharing The “Microfeminisms” They Practice Every Day
"I'm sure I'm not the first person to speak about this or even give it a name, but the way this trend has taken off says to me that it's something very important to women around the world."
"Nobody probably notices but it makes me feel like, 'I see you.'"
She told BuzzFeed, "I'm sure I'm not the first person to speak about this, or even give it a name, but the way this trend has taken off says to me that it's something very important to women around the world."
Ella added, "I also do this if anyone interrupts another woman that is speaking. I will ask the man to stop interrupting to let her finish her thought before he continues."
Ella told BuzzFeed, "In my opinion, microfeminisms help even the playing field. Overwhelmingly, women are expected to do admin work, take notes, and schedule meetings over men, even if they share the same title. The small things I do day-to-day help me support the women I work with while making men more aware of their impact on the women around them."
She said, "I am so lucky with the team I'm on at work. I'm really supported by the men around me, which in turn makes it easier for everyone to support the women in the team, myself included."
Will said that, for the most part, the dads are responsive and engaged, but usually, he's the instigator. "I've not yet been approached by another dad unprompted, so that will be a special day when I know I've met a like-minded fella."
"I give tons of credit to my wife, though, for setting up the organizational systems at home and on our calendar that make this work really smoothly for us. It lets us focus more on the kids than the administrative aspect of it all."
She continued, "Because if a woman followed your friend home, that would be the first thing you said. Like, 'Oh my god! A woman followed my friend home. That's so weird...' The fact that it's so normalized that we can use the passive tone and know what's happening... [that] shouldn't be normal."
For instance, the discrimination a transgender Black woman might face in the workplace would look different than my experience as a cisgender white woman. Moreover, what men do to women — white women can also do onto Black women and people of color. When we talk about "microfeminism," we have to take into account the most marginalized in the room.