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'My boyfriend "stalked" me before we got together – I don't know how to feel'

Daily Star 2 days ago

A woman has revealed how her boyfriend admitted he "stalked" her before they met – and while she said they now have a 'dream' relationship, she isn't sure whether she should be worried

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A woman has revealed her boyfriend 'stalked' her before they met (stock)

A woman who was "stalked" by her boyfriend before they got together is having conflicting feelings.

Posting on Reddit's r/confessions page, she said her man had watched her from his car and collected items she had used, including "napkins, tissues [and] hair ties". However, the pair are now living the "dream" together despite his odd behaviour.

The Reddit user obravenewworld11 said she found the behaviour "charming" as it proved he is "head over heels for me" but also confessed to being a bit creeped out.

She said: "I am F (26) and my boyfriend is M (25). He is the kind of man out of a DREAM. He’s a provider, he pampers and spoils me, emotionally supports me, makes me feel like i’m a goddess. Everything has been great between us, and i could see myself spending my life with him. With all that being said, he admitted he was my STALKER before we met.

"He was designing a website for my employer, at the time i worked at a women’s clothing boutique. i modeled for the brand, which is where he found modeling photos of me, and admitted he couldn’t get me out of his head. he said my eyes in the photos felt like i was looking at him through the screen. he proceeded to go to the store where i worked, to find out my information from my coworker.

"He then proceeded to find my instagram, dive deeply into it, and then start to sit outside of the store to watch me. he said it was only a one time thing but i think he may be lying. He admitted he keeps a box under his bed with things he’s taken from me. small insignificant objects like used napkins, tissues, hair ties, etc, things that he keeps to remind himself of me."

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The woman seemed charmed by the stalking (stock)

"I also am a tiny bit creeped out, but i'm so in love it really overpowers that feeling. but how much of my love could potentially be manipulated? we're best friends and i've never been happier but i'm hoping for an outside opinion.."

Reddit users appeared divided on the stalker behaviour before the relationship, with one user humorously commenting, "It's fine now, but if you ever decide to break up with him there's a very real possibility that he'll murder you and wear your skin like a suit."

Another chimed in: "Fine line between stalking and pursuing I suppose. So long it works out I don't see the harm? Just be careful if you go to break up or if he becomes irrationally possessive."

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