Hmmmm...
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSING MARRIAGE
Good day Stella.Please help me post.
I noticed my husband likes to put me in a position where it seems I'm forcing myself on him and he's not interested.
I don't know if it fans his ego. For example, there was a time we had a misunderstanding, I went to his office with food to talk about issues, when colleagues pass and say hi to me, he'll quickly tell them not to mind me that I offended him and I brought food to come and beg him.
He will even raise the food and show them. He repeated it to more than 5 people before I cautioned him to stop.
I can hug him in public and he will shout that I should leave him alone, I will now avoid coming close to him, he will complain that I'm not romantic see how Mr & Mrs X are all over each other.
He was brushing his teeth and retching one morning, I rushed to the bathroom to check on him, he answered me so rudely like I was bothering him. The next time he retched while brushing, I faced my front. He now came out and was telling me how I don't care about him. How he vomited twice and I didn't even come and check on him.
S#x is even worse. I try to kiss him and do a little teasing all day he will start pushing me away that I should stop. I will now leave him alone, he will start complaining that I don't initiate s#x. I stopped apologising whenever we have a misunderstanding because anytime I apologise, he will drag the issue and make me keep apologising for days. Then he will turn around and use it against me in future that I'm always the one apologising and begging him every time. That I should work on myself.
This is me that apologises for the sake of peace not because I feel anyone is wrong. I stopped apologising since the second year of marriage, he now says I'm too proud I cannot even apologise during misunderstandings.
I'm just confused in this marriage.
If I act nice he will act irritated like fine girl that plenty boys are toasting, if I act indifferent, he will complain that I'm too hardened. Is this how marriage is supposed to be? Is the wife supposed to be chasing the husband like this? We've been married for 5 years. I've stopped being nice to him. I just act like I don't care. Like very emotionless. I promised myself that I won't let him humiliate me again. And he's complaining that I'm proud and sending me quotes on pride everyday. What do I do now? I can't keep putting myself in the position he wants me to be.....
What kind of man is this? Is he Bipolar? I dont even know what kind of advice to give you as you have tried both ways and none is working..Please continue with whatever behaviour you deem fit to tame his complexities... God forbid this kind of husband eeeh.