Have you ever wondered why some families seem to have it all figured out?
This might sound very impossible but hey, it’s not magic neither is it a hard nut to crack, it’s just more of finding the right balance between marriage and parenting.
You are willing to make things work but that can’t be possible if you don’t know how to go about it right?
Here are some strategies to balancing marriage and parenting, maintaining a healthy relationship with your spouse while taking care of your kids ensuring everyone’s needs are met. Whether it’s improving communication or better time management, you’ll pick up some valuable advice on creating a happy family life.
• Build a communication bond: Communication is a key factor in marriage that cannot be underestimated. You get to know more about your partner and kids. Communication increases trust and strengthens your bond with the family.
• Create time for everything: You don’t want to be in a situation where your romantic life with your spouse dies down completely when there’s an addition to the family. Having a child doesn’t mean you should abandon your fun time with your spouse. Spending quality time with your spouse while parenting does not make you irresponsible, you just need to find the balance. You might consider taking your kids to spend the holidays or weekends at trusted siblings’ or your parents’. You get to have personal time with your spouse. During weekends, take yourselves out on a date, hang out, have discussions on things affecting your home, and strategize and make improvements. With that, you are able to perform your duties as a good parent and at the same time, a good spouse.
• Fuel the emotional tank: How does your spouse want to be loved - love language. What do they like? Also, for your kids, know their likes and dislikes alongside your spouse’s. Take, for instance, if your spouse has a favorite food which your kids dislike, you don’t have to prepare the same meal for both parties. Find a way around it and ensure that both parties are satisfied.
• Cultivate the habit of appreciation: By showing it to your spouse in different ways, like getting gifts. Yes, I know you are also a parent and have to cater to your children, but that’s no excuse for neglecting your spouse's need for personal items, even if they didn’t ask for it. As a married woman and mother, appreciate your husband with gifts and vice versa. This strengthens the respect and bond between each other. This action shouldn't only be done when things are fine between you and your partner; it is also necessary to continue even during unsettled issues or arguments.
• Be supportive: There are various ways to show support to your spouse and kids. This includes providing emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical assistance. The same applies to your children, where you should encourage their aspirations and passions, and let them feel comfortable enough to confide in you.
• Bring in God to the equation: Remember the saying "save the best for last". It is crucial to strike a balance between your role as a spouse and as a parent. If you want to have everything sorted out, it is important to involve God in every decision you make.